What About Discipline?

 

By Janet Allison

This commonly asked question is answered with insight and heart in the book, Heaven on Earth: A Handbook for Parents of Young Children written by long-time preschool teacher and mother of three sons, Sharifa Oppenheimer.  After presenting a clear foundation of brain and body development, the author explains how parents can create nurturing routines and play spaces for their children and how, with words and actions, they can begin to build their own unique family culture.  

Much of the discipline question is answered when parents create routines that support a predictable world for their child, along with providing simple toys and play areas that support developmental needs.  This structure often eliminates many scenarios that lead to disciplining children.

However, as the mother of three, she knows that ‘behavior management’ will be necessary at times!  She suggests distracting children from the source of conflict first, then bringing them near you to do a rhythmic activity such as sweeping or washing dishes. When you do need to manage behavior more directly, speaking firmly and kindly in a neutral voice tone will model a return to calmness for your child

The words we use with our children influence their behavior and their self-esteem.  Janet Allison, Parent Educator, includes much of Ms. Oppenheimer’s wisdom in her 5-week class series, “The Language of Parenting ~ Words Weave Magic.”  You’ll learn how to use language as the catalyst for raising children who are capable and confident.

A new class series begins on Tuesday, May 13th to June 10th, 12:15 to 2:15 at Zenana Spa and Wellness Center.  Limited childcare is available by calling the spa directly (503-238-6262).